Creating A Securely Attached Relationship is the Best Defense to Alienation

It’s no shock that the most challenging time to address parental alienation is the point when your child is refusing to see you. Unfortunately, many parents feel blindsided by their child cutting them out of their life. It wasn’t something they were expecting, and it definitely wasn’t something they were prepared for.  

What if there was something you could do to dramatically lessen the likelihood of losing your relationship with your kids, long before they’re at an age to assert themselves? Because the best time to prevent parental alienation is NOW.

It takes patience, perseverance, and a commitment to keeping the kids out of the middle. 

Pour into your relationship with your children.

It’s really, really hard to break the bond between securely attached parents and their children. Your kids are going to know where their safe place is; it’s your job to make it with you (and not to the exclusion of their other parent). Concentrate on building a strong relationship with your children by letting go of what goes on in their other home. We can help you with this through teaching you the tools in our 6-week course, or through group or 1:1 coaching sessions.  Practice parallel parenting, where you meet your kids’ physical and emotional needs as if you’re the only parent in their life. .

Earn your children’s trust.

When you speak negatively about their other parent, often under the guise of, “they need to know the truth!” you’re actually driving a wedge between them and yourself. Refrain from berating their other parent or making negative comments about their home, parenting, or other choices. Never put your kids in the middle by using them as messengers, interrogating them after they return from their other home, or asking them to choose between their parents. Instead, shield your kids from conflict as a way to earn their respect and demonstrate they will always be able to trust you.

In protecting your kids from conflict, you’re also protecting your relationship with them, now and well into the future.  If you feel like you're struggling with your co-parenting relationship, sign up for a complimentary 15-minute discovery call to learn how we can help!