Our next book club
A live one-hour Zoom discussion of Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie with Stephen Mitchell, hosted by Coach Brittany. Free and open to anyone.* One RSVP puts you on the invite list for every monthly Book Club going forward.
*For now. On January 1, 2027, Book Club moves inside our Solid Ground community for members only.
The book: Loving What Is
Loving What Is teaches a practice Byron Katie calls The Work: four questions you ask about a thought that is causing you stress. Co-parents know these thoughts well. He is turning the kids against me. She will never stick to the schedule. I have to answer this message right now. The four questions give you a way to examine a thought like that before you act on it.
The practice lines up closely with Regulate, the first move of our 4-Move Change Model™, which runs through our 1-to-1 coaching and the 6-Week High Conflict Co-Parenting Skills Intensive.
We use the four questions on your own stressful thoughts about co-parenting. We never use them to question whether abuse, coercion, or a safety concern is real. Safety concerns go to the right professionals, and your attorney decides legal strategy.
What we will cover on October 14
- The four questions, tried on a thought about your co-parent
- The turnaround, and where we stop using it when safety is involved
- Using the questions in the minutes before you reply to a hostile message
- How the practice connects to Regulate in our 4-Move Change Model
- Live Q&A on real situations you bring to the session
Coach Brittany
Hi, I'm Coach Brittany. I work with parents in high-conflict co-parenting every day at High Conflict Resolutions, and this book club is exactly the conversation I wish I could have with more people at once. Come read with me. We will keep it practical, honest, and grounded in real texts and messages.
More about Coach Brittany →Reserve your seat
Fill in your name and email and we will send the Zoom link 24 hours before we meet, plus a reminder the morning of. One RSVP puts you on the invite list for every monthly Book Club going forward.
Book Club questions
The High Conflict Resolutions Book Club is a free monthly Zoom book club for parents dealing with high-conflict co-parenting, hosted by Coach Brittany.
Is the co-parenting book club really free?
Yes. Book Club is free and open to anyone through December 2026. On January 1, 2027, it moves inside our Solid Ground community for members only.
Do I have to finish Loving What Is before the session?
No. The book runs about 400 pages. If you can, read the opening chapters on the four questions and the turnaround. You are welcome even if you have not started it and just want to listen.
How can this book help me stop obsessing about my ex?
The four questions give you something to do with a thought that keeps looping, besides arguing with it in your head. You write the thought down, ask the four questions, and notice how you react when you believe it. Coach Brittany walks through real examples during the session.
How do I stop reacting to my co-parent's messages?
Start with the thought the message sets off, before you answer it. Asking the four questions gives you time to settle before you respond. That pause is Regulate, the first move of our 4-Move Change Model. For help with the reply itself, our SAFE™ Ghostwriting program works with you as your communication partner.
Will other people see my name on the Zoom call?
You can change your Zoom display name to your first name or an alias. Click Participants, hover over your name, click More, then Rename.
Want more support than our monthly Book Club? Meet Solid Ground
Solid Ground is our private coaching community for parents in high-conflict co-parenting. Work through messages with coach support, practice regulating before you respond, and connect with other parents who understand what you are dealing with. Book Club stays free and open to everyone through December, then moves inside Solid Ground on January 1, 2027.
Solid Ground is open now. Join at the founding rate and keep it for as long as you stay.
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